Navigating Perimenopause- How do I know if I am in Perimenopause?

How do you know if you are in Perimenopause? It’s a good question. And importantly when you should start expecting to watch out for changes in your body that are a sign of perimenopause?

The very fact that you typed “How do I know if I am in perimenopause” into Google, shows that it’s time as a society that we started chatting about what happens to a women’s body and mind once she reaches the golden old, ripe age of 35. Yes, you did read that right. I said 35.

Now you don’t have to be as old as your mother, or getting around the house in your purple slippers and bathrobe to have your body start changing. Your body just has to decide it is time.

Specifically, it doesn’t give a hoot if you are having the time of your life in your 30s with your life waist deep in toddler time sessions at the local church hall; if you’ve finally got the kids into highschool and all settled, or you are in your 50s and they’ve finally left the house.

It’s quite inconvenient like that. It will decide when it wants to. And there is nothing you can do but hang on for the ride and get yourself informed about the changes. And then tell all your friends.

So if you’ve come across my blog for the first time, then welcome. My name is Katische and I have been blogging since 2011 sporadically. I’m the mother of two tweenagers and have two cute 9 year old twinnies along for the ride as part of my relationship.

Well in my mind I write one just about every day, but then I look online and it seems it’s been 6 months or a year. Where does the time go?

I’ve been blogging since my separation and divorce, then the death of my father. We’ve covered travel, terminal illness, anxiety and dating, and how to use essential oils on this blog and now we’re going to talk about perimenopause.

I’ve only heard of Menopause- what’s the Perimenopause thing all about then?

Perimenopause means, the phase leading up to Menopause, or the end of your period forever. Yes. Forever. As in you never need to go to the shops and buy a pad, menstrual cup or bloody tampons again. Aren’t you relieved at the sound of that?

It’s also the time that your body starts to prepare for this by decreasing the production of estrogen, testosterone and progesterone. Oh and your body starts to reduce the production of Melatonin as well (meaning it’s harder to go to sleep). And well, your hormones are basically all over the shop and you can feel like, well you are going crazy.

Except you aren’t. I promise. You’re just experiencing changes in your temporal lobe and limbic system that are as dramatic as that child of yours who is going through puberty at the same time you are going through Perimenopause. Convenient right?

How did I know I was in Perimenopause?

Wondering how to know if you are in perimenopause? This is how I figured it out.

There are over 35 different symptoms of Perimenopause, so don’t be surprised if your experience is different to mine. You may never experience hot flushes/hot flashes (you lucky thing), or flooding periods. Each woman’s experience is unique- which is why it is so bloody confusing and fascinating at the same time.

There’s one thing that is clear though. Your body will be very clear about it. And you don’t need a blood test or a doctor to diagnose it. Sure, you can go to the doctor, please do, however, your hormone levels change on a daily basis, so there is never a clear answer until you have not had a period for 12 months (and no baby was produced during this absence of blood). By then you are actually in menopause.

Symptoms of Perimenopause

Are you ready. Here we go:

Headaches, nausea, irritability, ANGER, forgetfulness, forgetting specific words, general vagueness, bloating, weight gain, depression, ANXIETY, social anxiety, vaginal dryness, UTI, recurring thrush, loss of libido, hot flushes, irregular periods, flooding (bleeding), flat mood- not able to get excited about anything, spotting, inability to deal with anything or anyone who has been driving you crazy, and let’s not forget the desire to say Fuck Off to everyone, regularly!

So today I have committed to keeping you in the loop weekly about what’s happening in my perimenopause world. I hope that you will see this first vlog, taken from my private facebook group and come on over and join us. 

My first Perimenopause Vlog

This video is a quick update to my facebook group. But it’s an example of my commitment to starting the discussion, and I hope you will join us.

What would you like to know about Perimenopause and Menopause? Comment below or share your story and let’s get this discussion out in the open.

For my other blogs about perimenopause and my workshop and coffee or wine catch up groups, visit this page.