Understanding emotions and divorce

No one ever imagines they will get divorced. But for 50% of us it becomes reality. This section outlines some of the key issues that are faced by couples and individuals when going through the separation and divorce process. It is a time of incredible stress and anxiety and grief for everyone and unfortunately society deems it a taboo topic. Most people going through a divorce are left on their own to cope with the aftermath. It’s not that your friends don’t care, it’s just that they don’t know how to approach you and what to say. They are unsure how to act and to behave.

In the lead up to separating from my husband, I experienced incredible anxiety. I did not know how I would financially survive, and I knew that I would be the main provider of care for our children. I believe that the years following my separation and divorce exposed me to many invaluable tools, and I want to share them with you.

Getting divorced is one of those times in your life when you feel as though you are experiencing every emotion that exists. It can be a time of complete emotional exhaustion. One minute you are angry, the next sad, the next relieved. If you are anything like me, then you’re probably beating yourself up for being an “emotional wreck” and just want it to stop and return to normal. Which it will, when you have completed the grieving process. Yes I did say grieving.  Right now your mind and body is going through a complex process, akin to a major detox and and you have to learn to emotionally live without the other person in your life.  It is a major time of upheaval and transformation in your life and it is critical that you are kind to yourself.  I have created this section of my website to share my story, hoping that it may help you through your time of transition and transformation. I include information about the tools that I used to get myself through. Please contact me if you have any questions.