How to feel good about your body in perimenopause and menopause

The Dare More & Care Less solution

Can I seriously recommend this book? My friend Sally Steele launched her book yesterday and I believe it is a must read for all perimenopausal and menopausal women.

Why? Sal is a no holds barred vivacious Glaswegian living in Brisbane and she’s here to change your mindset about how you feel about your body and the clothes that you wear and the way that you shop.

As we go through menopause and perimenopause, our body changes. Most of us put on weight around our mid section and our necks thicken not to mention the arms….

Instead of getting depressed and down, it’s time to look at the way you think about your body, and ditch the inner bitch and invest in some self love and a mindset makeover.

We often shop to distract ourselves emotionally, and we end up with not only debt but a wardrobe full of pieces we never wear or hate. This is not only detrimental to the ever filling landfill but to our personal power, and psychology.

Your 40s 50s 60s and beyond are the time to not give a flying fuck about what other people think about what you wear. It’s your time to wear what MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD.

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As a fashion stylist the book is also crammed full with practical ways to review, reflect and reset your wardrobe. It helps you to learn how to curate your wardrobe rather than letting it be a reflection of your consumption trends spurred on by fast fashion. And most importantly how to dare more with your wardrobe.

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When we dare more, we gain confidence and be, do achieve more out of life. Most importantly we have fun, and gain that inner glow again. Sal will show you tips and tricks to instantly amp up your wardrobe, how to use metallics as a neutral, wear prints, rock denim and she shows you photos of real women who sue her #realstreetstyle hashtag on Instagram to share their moments of caring less and daring more in their everyday lives.

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Go get the book. And grab one for your bestie. xx

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What does early Menopause feel like?

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One of the things we struggle with is our own definitions of age and ageing and when things can be expected to “happen” to us. In our own minds we may classify certain stages of life with certain events and diseases or illnesses and not bother with them until they hit us in the face.

If we experience them “Early” in can not only be debilitating, it can be lonely and socially isolating.

Menopause can be early due to a medical condition. Or it can just happen “early”.

This is a very powerful video from one lady who experienced early menopause.

Whilst she chose HRT and found great success, there are other options. But like everything in life, you should make your own informed decision and choose the path that suits you and your lifestyle and your needs.

We’re catching up tomorrow (July 16) at the Bardon Shed at 10:30am for a coffee and at Darling and Co at 6pm for a wine. There’s no need to feel alone. We catch up once a month, so check Eventbrite for the next date, RSVP (It’s FREE) and put it in your calendar.

Don’t live in Brisbane, Queensland Australia? No problems. Come join us virtually.

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Why not join our private Facebook Group?

Curious or need additional information – this perimenopause and menopause page will help.

Minimising the risk of Osteoporosis.


What is Osteoporosis?

Osteoporosis is a condition suffered due to the decrease of estrogen levels in your body after menopause that weakens bones and leads to increased fractures.

But Osteoporosis is for old women, and I’m not old!

What is old? As we age our definition of old seems to change, so we are at risk of not adequately preparing our bodies for the changes that taking each spin around the planet entails.

Here’s a few cold hard facts.


Even if you don’t feel old, there are changes that your body goes through. These changes may lead to some symptoms and diseases but you can minimise your risk of having them by simply educating yourself and adjusting your diet and lifestyle accordingly.

Can I take a supplement to reduce my risk of Osteoporosis?

Yes! You can use a supplement to compliment your diet if you lead a busy lifestyle and can’t be certain that you are getting enough Vitamin D, C, Calcium (from vegan or non vegan sources) and Magnesium in your life.

There are many supplements out in the marketplace but I choose to take this one on a daily basis as it is bioavailable. This means it is easily absorbed by the body- so you don’t pee it out, and the nutrients are not wasted.


Magnesium is included due to its role in bone health. Copper is included for healthy bone tissue. Biotin is Vitamin B7. Boron is a mineral also useful for strong bones.

Ready to order! Good for you. Click on Shop Now below and choose either retail priced or wholesale depending upon your needs. The Bone Nutrient Complex is only available from the USA at the moment, so make sure AFTER you choose the country that you live in, you choose following

For Wholesale Orders (you join doTERRA with a membership exactly like when you join Costco)

International (NFR) Order: Select this option if you wish to order your items from a USA Warehouse in US Dollars.

For retail orders

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Navigating Perimenopause- How do I know if I am in Perimenopause?

How do you know if you are in Perimenopause? It’s a good question. And importantly when you should start expecting to watch out for changes in your body that are a sign of perimenopause?

The very fact that you typed “How do I know if I am in perimenopause” into Google, shows that it’s time as a society that we started chatting about what happens to a women’s body and mind once she reaches the golden old, ripe age of 35. Yes, you did read that right. I said 35.

Now you don’t have to be as old as your mother, or getting around the house in your purple slippers and bathrobe to have your body start changing. Your body just has to decide it is time.

Specifically, it doesn’t give a hoot if you are having the time of your life in your 30s with your life waist deep in toddler time sessions at the local church hall; if you’ve finally got the kids into highschool and all settled, or you are in your 50s and they’ve finally left the house.

It’s quite inconvenient like that. It will decide when it wants to. And there is nothing you can do but hang on for the ride and get yourself informed about the changes. And then tell all your friends.

So if you’ve come across my blog for the first time, then welcome. My name is Katische and I have been blogging since 2011 sporadically. I’m the mother of two tweenagers and have two cute 9 year old twinnies along for the ride as part of my relationship.

Well in my mind I write one just about every day, but then I look online and it seems it’s been 6 months or a year. Where does the time go?

I’ve been blogging since my separation and divorce, then the death of my father. We’ve covered travel, terminal illness, anxiety and dating, and how to use essential oils on this blog and now we’re going to talk about perimenopause.

I’ve only heard of Menopause- what’s the Perimenopause thing all about then?

Perimenopause means, the phase leading up to Menopause, or the end of your period forever. Yes. Forever. As in you never need to go to the shops and buy a pad, menstrual cup or bloody tampons again. Aren’t you relieved at the sound of that?

It’s also the time that your body starts to prepare for this by decreasing the production of estrogen, testosterone and progesterone. Oh and your body starts to reduce the production of Melatonin as well (meaning it’s harder to go to sleep). And well, your hormones are basically all over the shop and you can feel like, well you are going crazy.

Except you aren’t. I promise. You’re just experiencing changes in your temporal lobe and limbic system that are as dramatic as that child of yours who is going through puberty at the same time you are going through Perimenopause. Convenient right

How did I know I was in Perimenopause?

Wondering how to know if you are in perimenopause? This is how I figured it out.

There are over 35 different symptoms of Perimenopause, so don’t be surprised if your experience is different to mine. You may never experience hot flushes/hot flashes (you lucky thing), or flooding periods. Each woman’s experience is unique- which is why it is so bloody confusing and fascinating at the same time.

There’s one thing that is clear though. Your body will be very clear about it. And you don’t need a blood test or a doctor to diagnose it. Sure, you can go to the doctor, please do, however, your hormone levels change on a daily basis, so there is never a clear answer until you have not had a period for 12 months (and no baby was produced during this absence of blood). By then you are actually in menopause.

Symptoms of Perimenopause

Are you ready? Here we go:

Headaches, nausea, irritability, ANGER, forgetfulness, forgetting specific words, general vagueness, bloating, weight gain, depression, ANXIETY, social anxiety, vaginal dryness, UTI, recurring thrush, loss of libido, hot flushes, irregular periods, flooding (bleeding), flat mood- not able to get excited about anything, spotting, inability to deal with anything or anyone who has been driving you crazy, and let’s not forget the desire to say Fuck Off to everyone, regularly!

So today I have committed to keeping you in the loop weekly about what’s happening in my perimenopause world. I hope that you will see this first vlog, taken from my private facebook group and come on over and join us. 

My first Perimenopause Vlog

This video is a quick update to my Facebook group. But it’s an example of my commitment to starting the discussion, and I hope you will join us.

What would you like to know about Perimenopause and Menopause? Comment below or share your story and let’s get this discussion out in the open.

For my other blogs about perimenopause and my workshop and coffee or wine catch up groups, visit this page.

Best Essential Oils for sore muscles after a workout during Perimenopause and Menopause

One of the first signs that we might be in perimenopause or menopause is the inevitable weight gain around the midriff. After fighting our pear shapes our whole lives, nature decides that it prefers apples instead.

So we haul ourselves back to the gym or sign up for pilates, or yoga or an outdoor training session.

And in an effort to shift some of that flab we might tend to exercise harder than usual to try and counter the downward decline in your metabolism.

And now you have sore muscles right?

But not just any sore muscles- they seem to be taking longer to recover after each session.

So you’re more inclined to hit the snooze button than you are to get up and train and work your way through the pain.

Which leads to a new set of complications- decrease in highly metabolically active muscle mass through disuse according to Pam Peeke,MD, MPH, FACP, best-selling author and expert on health, fitness, and nutrition

If you are looking for a natural but effective way to soothe your tired and sore muscles after exercise then essential oils are an effective way to help them recover.

doTERRA Ice Blue (Deep Blue) Rub is a rich, topical cream infused with the Ice Blue/Deep Blue Soothing Blend of CPTG Certified Pure Therapeutic Grade® essential oils. (It’s known as Deep Blue in the USA and Ice Blue in Australia)

Formulated with a proprietary blend of natural plant extracts and other powerful ingredients, Deep Blue Rub provides a comforting sensation of cooling and warmth to problem areas. Made with Wintergreen, Camphor, Peppermint, Ylang Ylang, Helichrysum, Blue Tansy, Blue Chamomile, and Osmanthus, Deep Blue Rub is an essential addition to your bathroom cabinet and gym bag.

Plus it’s non-greasy!

Ice Blue Essential Oil and Rub

Deep Blue Polyphenol Complex

Need a little extra help now that you are over 40? You may think you are as fit and agile as you were in your twenties, but your body may be starting to show signs of aging and it may take you longer to heal from injury.

Deep Blue Polyphenol Complex provides a unique blend of extracts of Indian frankincense (Boswellia serrata), along with turmeric and ginger. Indian frankincense has long been used for its soothing properties, and its use in the traditional Ayurvedic practices of India is well established.

This supplement delivers a unique and standardized Boswellia serrata extract (not an essential oil) that has been clinically studied to promote healthy mobility and function, and can provide soothing support throughout the entire body.

Like frankincense, turmeric has been used for centuries in Ayurvedic practice and is also part of the popular spice Indian curry. The science behind turmeric’s soothing role in overworked muscles and joints is now recognized by experts throughout the world.

Ginger root has also been used for centuries throughout Asia for health benefits and as a popular spice. Ginger was among the first spices brought to the New World and has long been recommended for its natural soothing benefits.

Directions for Use:

Take 2 capsules with food per day; 1 capsule in the morning and one in the evening

Deep Blue Polyphenol Complex is available to purchase from the USA only. Make sure you click “I want products that are shipped from the United States (NFR)” when you shop. If you choose the USA, you will have access to a wider range of products in this range, as pictured below, including the 1 Litre pump pack which is fantastic to share amongst sporting teams, and the samples.

Best Essential Oils for sore muscles after a workout
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The cooling essential oil spray for hot flushes you can’t live without during menopause

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The cooling essential oil spray you can’t live without during menopause

Let’s face it, perimenopause and menopause aren’t exactly the most glamorous times in our life. It’s a time of secret women’s business and many women enter it feeling alone, clueless and powerless.  It’s time that stopped!

I want to share with you the secrets of menopause and empower you to take back your life, and give birth to the new you!

Cooling Spray for Hot Flushes

Essential oils are a wonderful and natural way to empower you to manage your hot flushes.  They work with the endocrine system and the limbic system to help you with both your emotions about the flushes and also cool your body temperature down.  The secret sauce is in the blending and use of both the essential oils that will help the physical symptoms and then those that help the emotional side. Clever huh?

The simplest method is to set yourself up with a kit of essential oils, and make a few hot flush sprays and keep them in your handbag, kitchen and office, or wherever you might need them. A glass spray bottle can be easily purchased online or at a local eco store. The wonderful thing about this is that the spray acts instantaneously, cooling you down as well as smelling amazing!

In addition the essential oils in the kit are so versatile you can use them for countless other situations in your life.

Get your FREE Hot Flushes ebook now.

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Here’s to not only surviving but thriving during perimenopause and menopause!

You hid your period and budding breasts, but you’re a grown woman now. Your life is changing, again. It’s time to make friends with your body, your cycles and the wisdom that it holds within.⁣

This is your time. Claim your wisdom, and learn how to harness the swings, the flushes and give birth to yourself. This is what your 40s, 50s and 60s are.⁣

PS- Shop our natural cotton, hemp and bamboo collection below- these fabrics help keep your body cooler during hot flushes! Hemp and bamboo have natural wicking abilities.

Katische xo


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I think this is a great way to reframe hot flushes in your mind! Do you agree?

Natural remedies for Upset tummies and stuffy noses

Natural remedies for upset tummies and stuffy noses


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It’s hard being a parent when your kids (oops children, mine keep telling me they are not baby goats) are not feeling well. Help is at hand.  Over the past couple of years I have learnt how to use essential oils to safely and effectively help my children with the symptoms of their illness, and importantly to reduce the number of pharmaceutical products we use! I rarely visit the pharmacy anymore and my hip pocket is dancing a happy dance!

Natural remedies for Upset tummies

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Easy Air essential oil (known as Breathe in the USA) are your reasons to throw that disgusting tub of Vicks in the bin. This is an all natural product which is actually safe to put on your children. It doesn’t have toxic ingredients unlike other products we have grown up using. It contains Eucalyptus Leaf Oil, Laurel Leaf Oil, Peppermint Oil, Menthol,  Melaleuca Leaf Oil, Lemon Peel Oil, Ravensara Leaf Oil and Cardamom Seed Oil.

This video explains how you can use the essential oil and the the vapour stick. It also comes in a handy rollerball, which I prefer to carry in my handbag. I use the oil in the diffuser and the stick on the children at night and before school when they are congested.  Personally, as soon as I lie down at night, my nose gets blocked, so I use the rollerball and rub it underneath my nose for immediate impact.




Natural remedies for Upset tummies:

Digestion is one thing that we all know impacts our lives, but we don’t really talk about it until it’s too late and we, or our loved ones, are running to the bathroom with digestive issues. This is a product that I have personally resisted using, but my kids love. When Hamish has an upset tummy, he will specifically ask to use this and have it massaged into his tummy. He also likes it in the diffuser. Why does he like it? Because it works.  (We also use it on his tummy on those days that he’s feeling anxious about school, and the anxious feelings are showing as an upset tummy- I’ll rub the oil into his belly button and he’ll be feeling back to normal by the time he goes to school. He knows now, that I know when he’s trying to stay at home, and that I will take his complaint seriously and he can stay at home if sick, but if it’s anxious feelings, then it’s best to put the oil on, and see if he wants to talk about it. Often I find it is a bit of separation anxiety).

DigestZen is known as doTERRA’s “tummy tamer” blend due to its ability to aid in digestion, soothe occasional stomach upset, and maintain overall digestive health.* This unique blend contains Ginger, Fennel, and Coriander to help ease occasional stomach discomfort, including motion sickness and indigestion, while Peppermint, Tarragon, Anise, and Caraway aid with digestion and help maintain a healthy gastrointestinal tract.* DigestZen is great to have on hand when stomach upset occurs and is safe and effective. DigestZen is a healthy, natural, and gentle way to soothe an upset stomach or maintain a healthy digestive system.*

I don’t have a partner, but if you do, and they love to relax with a beer, but it gives them the burps or flatulence, then this is the product for them. You’ll be surprised at the results. If your partner is not adventurous to take a drop in a glass of water, rub it in the soles of the feet, or convince them that a stomach massage of the oil in a tablespoon of carrier oil will provide them with instant relief.



*These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.



From marketing strategy to downward facing dog

In 1997, I moved from Brisbane to Sydney to finally work on a consulting project that I was both qualified for and interested in. I had been working for a global consulting company in the “Change Management” division, on a boring SAP implementation project. Only a year before I had finished my Masters Degree, and my thesis topic, which was pretty darn interesting for the time was “The impact of eCommerce on Marketing”.  Having had no luck in getting on a eCommerce project, I finally met Campbell Macpherson at a training session, and figured out that he was the “person to know”. Not long after, I moved to Sydney and jumped on a fun project building the AMP website with Campbell and a great gang of people. I met his wife Jane and baby daughter, but it was not until a couple of years later, when I moved to the UK, and was able to stay with Jane and Campbell at their house, that I got to know Jane.

Fast forward 15 years! Jane is now working as a Yoga teacher, and I asked her to share her story about transitioning from the corporate world. I hope that if you are dreaming of a career change, that this blog helps you realise that anything is possible. Just follow your dreams, and doors will open!



From marketing strategy to downward facing dog

For nearly 20 years I was well and truly in the corporate world – Having completed an Economics and management degree, I steadily worked my way ‘up’ the corporate ladder and held various jobs in various industries – accountancy, advertising and promotional agencies, skipped over to the ‘client side’ to consumer goods industries and worked in banking and finance . I spent most of my twenties and thirties coming up with creative (well I thought so at the time!) ways to persuade our ‘target market’/’customer segment’/ ‘internal and external customer’ to choose a product or service over our competitors. I wrote more PowerPoint slides that were good for me ( or the people reading them), attended and ran numerous ‘away days’ and ‘team building’ exercises, read a plethora of management books, wore some great suits and shoes, met some wonderful people……. and thoroughly enjoyed it.

Until one day in London, at a particularly fraught meeting with some pretty senior banking colleagues, I had what I guess is a ‘road to Damascus’ moment. By now, I was married and had 2 amazing but exhausting toddlers and I was working part time at a major UK bank. Life was full on and I was feeling a little harassed having sorted out some issue concerning my daughter’s friendship issues – why is it that little girls can be so mean to each other? – telling one ‘best friend’ something and then turning her back on her friend when a better more dazzling friend comes along ( or probably in this case a brighter pink Barbie! Watching the little girls working out their relationships to each other, each wanting to make their mark, refusing to listen to the quieter ones, jostling for a better position in the class room/lunch queue/playground, I realised that work was becoming rather similar. I was sitting in a meeting where no one really cared what anyone else was saying, each person more concerned with their own story or issue and not really getting anything done! I started to get more and more cynical about my job and my reason for being there and this was not me – I have always been a positive person (some may say irritatingly so!)

Ok, I’m going to get all yogic on you now – the universe then stepped in. I had been practising yoga on and off for around 20 years and found it an ideal way to help some back pain stemming from a sporting injury and not made any better by childbirth and sitting in too many meetings. But there was more – it helped keep me calmer and able to cope with having a job and a young family ( by the way,’ having it all’ is not all it is supposedly cracked up to be!) So when I had had my Damascus moment, I started to look at whether I could train as a yoga teacher – with the far distant dream of giving up my job and teaching something I loved and believed…yeah right !– how was that going to happen – we had a huge mortgage and my husband was working for himself with all the trials and tribulations of an uncertain income and the stresses of running your own show 24/7. But I needed to do this and so looked and found a teacher training course in South London, enrolled and began studying…..

But then, lovely husband announced he had an exciting offer – a job in deepest Oxfordshire. A great opportunity to raise the kids in an idyllic spot, I could give up my now frankly tedious job – what more could I want?

I was not happy – Yes, I like walking in the countryside, fresh air and rural idyll scenes of my children frolicking with baby lambs – but what was I going to do? I could have still commuted into London but that was expensive, exhausting and I had 2 kids who needed their Mum helping them with a new school, friends, homework. I also of course did not want to continue with the kindergarten executive meetings – but I also couldn’t go to London for my yoga teacher training course. This course was I believed the best course I knew at the time – Up to 3 years of intensive yogic training with an internationally recognised qualification at the end of it. Where was I going to find one of those in the Cotswolds?

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But I did move of course – and rather grumpily drove the kids down one very dark and rainy Friday evening to an equally dark and cold house in Oxfordshire. I was excited about a new home for us all and for my husband’s new job but did a terrible job of hiding my own disappointment ( and some panic) at my own situation. But here’s the universe again…I was reading a yoga magazine that weekend and saw a 2 line ad about yoga teacher training in a village about 15 minutes’ drive from our new home…and here’s the spooky bit – the teacher trainer was none other than the owner of the South London training centre – who had moved recently to the area. I rang her rather nervously (she is a legend in the yoga world) and she agreed to train me herself. That was 12 years ago.


Yoga teaching is the best job in the world. I love it. I get to meet the most amazing people – some of whom humble me, some who challenge me. Some who make me laugh and some who make me cry. All of them teach me something new. And this learning will never stop. 3 years ago I went back to formal study and qualified as yoga therapist working with people in chronic pain – mental and physical. I am in awe of the human spirit in times of intense pain and sadness. I am in awe of these bodies that we have and I despair at how we judge and criticise ourselves rather than accepting and loving ourselves. Yoga teaches me to be entirely present and to enjoy every second life has to offer me. I am so lucky and privileged to do what I do.

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Yoga Retreat participants

Many people ask me do I not regret following this yogic path earlier given I love it so much and my answer is always no. I loved being in the corporate world – but I knew then as I know now that this was not my true self. My time to be myself came when it was right for me and my family. I was just ready to listen and realise it.

And the best bit….. Not a PowerPoint slide in sight!

Jane Macpherson:

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Jane is a senior yoga teacher and a registered member of the International Yoga Alliance (IYA 500 hours). She is also a qualified yoga therapist having completed a 2 year diploma in Yoga Therapy – one of the few recognised courses in the UK to be registered with the Complementary and Natural Healthcare council (an accredited register by the Professional Standards authority for Health and Social Care)

She teaches classes and workshops in the UK and Abu Dhabi. She also runs yoga retreats in the UK, Greece, Mallorca and India. For details of Janes upcoming yoga events please see her website  Her Facebook page can be found here.

Postcards from the past (Dad)

Today, I was looking through an old photo album when I came across this postcard.


I thought perhaps, it was a postcard of the plane that I took to the United Kingdom on my first backpacking trip in 1996, as often I collect souvenirs and postcards to fill holes in the blanks where I could not take a photo. I turned it over and found this.


Hello dad. This is my postcard back to you.

You wrote me this card when I was in grade four, I was eight years old, about to turn nine.  That’s the same age as my son Angus is right now. You were thirty five when you wrote this postcard. It’s hard to believe that at the time you wrote this card, half of your life had already gone. You just didn’t know it.

It’s funny to think that we live in a world where sending postcards has become irrelevant. A world where we have lost the art of simple letter writing. I remember now that you always sent us postcards on your business trips. Sometimes you’d beat them home, but that didn’t matter to us. We loved the simple fact that although we could not see you, you were still thinking of us. I’ve learnt now, by having my own children that a parent never stops thinking about their kids.

There are so many things left to ask you. I’m turning 40 in a few weeks, and although I’ve had three years to adjust to the concept of you not being here anymore, and I’m not afraid of death; I still don’t ever want there to be a day when the only thing that my children have left of me is a memory. So thank you dad of thirty five. Thank you for taking the time to write me a postcard.


Katische xxooxx