reclaim your life

Reclaim your life

Perimenopause and Menopause can often be a deeply unsettling time for women. For some, who have already gone through a dark night of the soul, it can be a time of final decluttering and stripping down to the bare bones all things that are no longer needed.

For those women, it is deeply satisfying, invigorating and a confirmation of all that is right with their direction.

For others, the changes in your limbic system (the emotional regulator of your brain) is like stirring the bottom of a crystal clear lake, only to find the bottom is brown and murky and is coming to the surface.

If we are honest with ourselves and realise that this is THE major chance in life to reevaluate where we are, and what we want for ourselves, then this can be akin to planting the lake with the most amazing lotus flowers. They will settle the water, purify it and produce the most amazing and peaceful blooms.

But only if we do the work.

As Clarissa points out, the women that reclaim their life are the ones who reap the rewards. And we all know that when a woman feels alive, she lights up the world around her, and the whole world benefits.

Take the time to know yourself. Learn about the changes in your body. 

Go on. Go to, check out the blogs, and the link to my facebook group and enroll yourself in my Thrive in Perimenopause and Menopause course.

Design a life for you, by you.

What is Estrogen?

What is Estrogen?

  • Estrogens are a group of sex hormones that promote the development and maintenance of female characteristics in the human body.
  • They play an essential role in the growth and development of female secondary sexual characteristics, such as breasts, pubic and armpit hair, and the regulation of the menstrual cycle and reproductive system.
  • During the menstrual cycle, estrogen produces an environment suitable for the fertilization, implantation, and nutrition of an early embryo.
  • The ovaries are the main location for estrogen production but they are also produced in the hypothalamus in the brain.

What happens to Estrogen production during Perimenopause and Menopause?

  • During the phase of transition from perimenopause to menopause, there is a larger drop in progesterone as compared to estrogen. This increased estrogen to progesterone ratio is a major player in the symptoms women experience.
  • At menopause, there is relatively high estrogen compared to progesterone.

Want to learn more?

If you would like to learn more about Perimenopause and Menopause visit our Perimenopause page or facebook group.

or, you can enroll in my Thrive in Perimenopause and Menopause online course!

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What is the difference between Perimenopause and Menopause?

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Are you wondering what the difference between Perimenopause and Menopause are? It’s most likely that you are confused by the terminology and trying to understand what most relates to where you are in life right now.

Never fear, Katische is here 😉

There are three terms that are thrown around in relation to women’s hormonal stages: Perimenopause, Menopause and Post Menopause.

To be honest, it is as simple as asking the question: Do you still get your period at all? If you do, you are Perimenopausal. If you haven’t had one for 12 months or more, we can retrospectively classify you as Menopausal.

Post-Menopausal is anything after that (not really a helpful term if you ask me). So let’s clarify that as – you haven’t had your period for such a long time, that you no longer even think about it.

Right, let’s be a bit more specific and get into what’s happening in your body during these periods of time.


Difference Perimenopause Menopause

How familiar are you with your uterus? You’d be surprised how many women don’t really understand their reproductive system- so it makes it quite difficult to understand what is going on during perimenopause.

Here’s a diagram for you to help you understand the changes that you experience when your body transitions into perimenopause. These changes are a result of the reduction in the production of your sex hormones, and in future posts, I will go through a lot of the symptoms that women experience as a result.

If you’d like to know more head to or join our facebook group or you can take my online perimenopause course 🙂


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What is Menopause? 

Menopause starts officially 12 months AFTER your last period. This can be medically induced menopause or natural. There is no “set” age for Menopause. Once you are in Menopause, there is 0% chance of falling pregnant as your body is no longer capable of this. Therefore, in my opinion, you should no longer be on any form of contraception.


(Naturally, you still need protection from sexually transmitted disease- I know- try telling that to any male in his 40s or 50s).

I firmly believe that if you are on contraception in Menopause you should be talking to your women’s health specialist about coming off contraception and managing your hormones naturally. 

You are of course, perfectly entitled to disagree with me, it is your body. Do your research, find out the options, enroll in my course and learn how to manage your body yourself.

I just can’t fake it

Oh sometimes I wish I could, but I just can’t. 

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If I’m not feeling an emotion, I just can’t manufacture it, and it’s a downfall of mine. I know everyone else seems to be able to put on a show face and pretend to be excited or happy, but I’ve never had that skill. 

I’ve always been a what you see is what you get kinda gal, and that sometimes gets me in trouble.

During perimenopause, that inability to fake emotion recently was a contributing factor that ended my relationship. 

And no, I don’t mean an ability to fake it in the bedroom. 

I can see that crystal clear in hindsight, that this made my ex-boyfriend feel unloved and like there was nothing that he could do that would elicit a display of delirious rapture that he wanted.

And so I just wanted to let you know, that if you’re feeling the same way at the moment, I understand.

During perimenopause, the changes in our hormonal levels in our limbic system of the brain (the master controller of emotion) fluctuate wildly depending on the day.

What I’ve noticed is that now I have a unique emotional cycle and for one part of that cycle, I just don’t feel myself. I don’t feel depressed or down, just flat.

Nothing can excite me during that time.

I mean, you could put a bow around the neck of the cutest fluffiest puppy in the world, and give him to me as a present, and I just couldn’t must up the excited display of emotion that you would want and expect to see.

I’d feel it, deep down somewhere, but I just can’t express it.

Luckily, it passes.

And I know it passes when I come out the other side and suddenly get the giggles, and think, oh boy, I’m back, I didn’t even realise I was gone.

So next time you are not feeling yourself, why not make yourself up a diffuser blend or aromatic dressing pure-fume from the following collection I’ve put together just for you.

Essential oils for sleep

Which essential oils should I use?

If you have trouble sleeping at night, then I’m excited to share with you that doTERRA has just made the Bedtime Bliss Wellness Box available as an enrolment kit for new customers to doTERRA.

The Bedtime Bliss Wellness Box comes with 5 essential oils and fractionated coconut oil, plus a card that outlines how to use the oils in your new night-time routine.

The bedtime bliss enrollment kit (also available for existing customers as a Loyalty Rewards Wellness Box)

Bedtime Bliss Enrolment Kit

Lavender Peace 
Begin your night-time ritual with 2-3 drops in your diffuser to promote a calm, relaxed environment. 

Add 2-3 drops to your warm bath with Epsom salts to create a relaxing, renewing experience. 

Apply 2-3 drops to the back of the neck or the heart, then inhale the excess from your palms to quiet the mind and calm your emotions before a tranquil sleep.

Peace Touch 
Leave all of your worries behind and recapture the composed, collected you and apply dōTERRA Peace® Touch by gently rubbing into your temples before bed. Apply to the bottom of the feet before bed, and keep near your bed for peace of mind throughout the night.

A good night’s rest begins with a calm and care-free day. Apply Balance® to the bottom of your feet to promote feelings of calmness and tranquility throughout the day. Begin the calming process after dinner by adding 1-3 drops to your diffuser.

Blend 1-3 drops with Balance®, or solo to create a relaxing environment after a difficult or action-packed day. 

Begin your night-time routine by adding 1-2 drops to your toner or moisturiser to leave your skin silky smooth, while enjoying the relaxing and grounding aroma.

Due to its calming, grounding effect on the emotions, Vetiver is an ideal oil to use in massage therapy; dilute with Fractionated Coconut Oil and apply to your body in long, soothing strokes. Add 1-2 drops to a warm bath for deep relaxation.

Fractionated Coconut Oil
Use to dilute stronger oils and apply to the skin. Combine 1-3 drops each of your favourite calming aromatic oils to an empty roller bottle, and top up with Fractionated Coconut Oil to create your own, personalised Bedtime Bliss blend.

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The Bedtime Bliss Enrolment Kit is $175 wholesale or $233 retail (no membership)

How to manage frustration anger and irritability during perimenopause and menopause

Anger in Perimenopause

If Perimenopause or Menopause has you feeling angry and frustrated, you are not alone! It’s the number one emotion that women experience during Perimenopause and Menopause.

Anger is a difficult emotion.

It is the emotion we chide ourselves for having and not containing.

It is an explosive emotion that we are told to keep under control.

Yet it is the very emotion that makes us sick when we repress it.

There is nothing wrong with being angry. It is a sign that something has insulted our ego or sense of self.

It is a sign that our values may have been compromised.

The key is to express anger without taking actions that cause negative repercussions.

Anger during perimenopause and menopause can be attributed to changes in our life, and the stuffing down of emotions that we may have repressed over our lifetime, to be a “good girl”.

However, once we are in perimenopause, we experience declines in the production of our sex hormones, and one of the implications of this is that we experience changes in our brain- our limbic system, which is the master controller of our emotions!

So rest assured it is not “just you”. You’re not “making it up”. There is a very valid chemical reaction that is going on in your body that is linked to the rage and frustration you are experiencing.

The challenge is to channel anger into positive action, through art, photography, music or exercise and not to throw things, drink, call names or any other angry behaviour.

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Recent article on midlife rage
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Help is at hand with essential oils. Your free guide includes the essential oils and specific blends which will help you manage your emotions and help you feel calmer and more in control.

Essential oils work with our olfactory and limbic systems. So our nose talks to the controller of our emotional brain via the encoded messages in the oils. Depending upon the oils you use, different messages are sent and they help you calm down, or uplift or inspire or reassure, or whatever emotional support it is that you need.

It’s more effective and faster than stuffing your face with cake, or alcohol or drugs when you are emotional, plus there are no side effects or addictions, and no extra kilos !!

Grab your free guide now.

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How to treat Urinary Tract Infections in Perimenopause with essential oils.

Urinary Tract Infection Perimenopause

Are you suffering from an increase in urinary tract infections now that you are in perimenopause or menopause? If you are looking for a solution that does not involve constantly going back to the doctor for antibiotics, then can I recommend essential oils and essential oil based supplements?

I have had great success helping people with UTI’s with essential oils- UTI’s are unfortunately very common with perimenopause and menopause During perimenopause and menopause the drop in the estrogen and progesterone leads to reduced blood flow in the vaginal walls. This results in atrophy and loss of lubrication.

You may experience:

  • Pale vagina surface
  • Repeated UTI’s
  • Itchiness or burning sensation
  • Difficulty getting aroused
  • Reduced sex drive
  • Painful intercourse.

Essential oils are helpful in relieving the spasms and purifying the body and eliminating the bacteria that cause the infection.

Copaiba Softgels:

“Used in Western Herbal medicine to support general health & wellbeing, urinary tract health and to relieve burning sensation upon urination associated with medically diagnosed cystitis, Copaiba essential oil now comes in an easy to swallow vegetarian and carrageenan free softgel.”

If you suffer from frequent recurring UTI’s and you would like to purchase any of these products go to

Rollerball/ Hot compress recipe

UTI Rollerball recipe- add essential oils and fill with fractionated coconut oil or carrier oil of your choice. Place a hot pack over the abdomen and also add juniper berry to a glass of cranberry juice.

Urinary Tract Infection Perimenopause

Consider using GX assist to remove the bacteria from your gut and then replenish with good bacteria via PB assist (doTERRA’s probiotic). Both of these items are available from the USA in $USD and can be shipped to Australia or your country of residence.

Urinary Tract Infection Perimenopause
GX Assist is a combination of CPTG Certified Pure Therapeutic Grade® essential oils and caprylic acid to help support a healthy digestive tract by creating an unfriendly environment for potential threats that can disrupt digestive immunities and cause digestive upset.* GX Assist is formulated to be used for 10 days as a preparatory cleansing step before using PB Assist®+ Probiotic Defense Formula.*
Urinary Tract Infection Perimenopause

Prevention is better than cure

Can anything be done to help prevent UTIs? 

According to the National Kidney Foundation, the following steps may help to prevent UTIs: 

  • Drink plenty of fluids.
  • Studies show that drinking a glass of cranberry juice each day may help prevent recurrent UTIs. New research also suggests a similar effect from other cranberry products, including dried cranberries and dietary supplements. Cranberries contain compounds that may stop certain bacteria from attaching to the urinary tract wall. For those with diabetes or at-risk for diabetes, low-sugar or sugar-free options are available. 
  • Don’t postpone going to the bathroom, urinate when you feel the urge.
  • Women should also: Wipe from front to back to prevent bacteria from the bowels from getting into the urinary tract. Cleanse the genital area every day and before having sex. Empty your bladder completely before going to sleep.
  • Take a supplement with cranberry or pomegranate. (doTERRA’s Life Long Vitality and Phytogestrogen Complex both contain Pomegranate)
  • Use a pre and probiotic
  • Regularly undertake a gut health cleanse a couple of times a year.
Urinary Tract Infection Perimenopause
Urinary Tract Infection Perimenopause

Break the Taboo: Thrive in Perimenopause and Menopause Online Course

Want to know more about why you get an increased risk of UTI’s in perimenopause and menopause? Searching for information about the various symptoms and how to manage them? Look no further than my online course.

Urinary Tract Infection Perimenopause

Urinary Tract Infection Perimenopause
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How to use Patchouli essential oil in Perimenopause and Menopause.

Today’s empowering education is how to use Patchouli Essential Oil in Perimenopause.

It’s a 16-page print quality colour ebook for you.

You are not going mad, you can’t download it in here

I’ve added it as a free preview bonus content lesson in my new Break The Taboo: Perimenopause and Menopause Online Course.

To access with my compliments, please log in and create a FREE account on my Thinkific School, and then you will be able to access all of the free preview content.

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Can I use Patchouli if I am not in Perimenopause?

Not in menopause or perimenopause and just interested in some generic information about Patchouli? Sure thing. I understand, the internet is a time-space warp and you can end up here just by clicking on something that you thought was relevant, but it turns out it wasn’t. And that’s annoying- so here it is.

The most common uses for Patchouli essential oil is for emotional and skin support. It is a grounding and balancing essential oil, and helps particularly with anger.

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patchouli perimenopause
patchouli perimenopause
patchouli perimenopause

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How to use Clary Sage Essential Oil in Perimenopause and Menopause (video)

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One of the most useful essential oils to have in your toolkit as you transition into perimenopause and then menopause is Clary Sage Essential Oil.

Clary Sage has been used since the middle ages for women’s health issues and the French have also historically widely used it for sexual health.

Clary Sage essential oil is:

  • Soothing to your skin due to its high linalyl acetate content
  • Antispasmodic therefore particularly helpful for PMS and cramps associated with your period. (Please note even if you are transitioning and don’t get a period very often you still may experience a phantom period like cramp at the time of the month that you would usually experience your period.
  • Sedative- particularly helpful in a diffuser blend at bedtime for those who have trouble getting to sleep or staying asleep. My “Sleep Soundly” ebook will give you a detailed insight into the use of sedative essential oils.
  • Nerve tonic
  • A key ingredient in my Hot Flushes Cooling essential oil spray
  • Fabulous for a healthy-looking scalp and hair- which can be an issue for some women.

Emotional benefits of Clary Sage Essential Oil in Perimenopause and Menopause

Clary Sage essential oil is known as the oil of clarity and vision and intuition. In perimenopause and menopause, it is an essential oil that you can use in perfume and diffuser blends to help you dispel your limiting beliefs about aging.

Our experience of perimenopause and menopause is affected by our perception of its link to aging. The video below examines how our thoughts on aging affect our mindset and levels of happiness.

Historically, women have believed that menopause was something experienced by “old women” and it has been a taboo topic. However, we are now understanding that women can experience perimenopause symptoms from the age of 35.

Your body and your genetic makeup will determine when you are ready to transition, and many women struggle with the fact that they have negative associations with the loss of their period and fertility and aging.

Using Clary Sage will help you see a new perspective on aging and menopause and will help you open your eyes and mindset towards new possibilities.

Positive affirmations for aging- listen whilst diffusing Clary Sage Essential Oil

Have you tried our Dare More perfume blend? This blend, containing Clary Sage was designed to celebrate the launch of Sally Steele’s new mindset book “Dare More Care Less”.

Your perception of aging and the link to how you will cope in perimenopause/menopause

Dry Hair in Perimenopause?

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1 teaspoon Fractionated Coconut Oil
1 tablespoon sweet almond oil
2 teaspoons doTERRA® Salon Essential Smoothing Conditioner
1 cup of water
5 drops Clary Sage essential oil
5 drops Geranium essential oil
Small spray bottle


  1. Pour half of the water into a spray bottle.
  2. Add Fractionated Coconut Oil, sweet almond oil, conditioner, and essential oils into bottle.
  3. Add remaining water and shake well.
  4. To use, apply one spritz to hair and work it through until hair is lightly coated. Style as normal.
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How to use Marjoram Essential Oil for Perimenopause and Menopause

Marjoram essential oil is a fantastic essential oil to have in your toolkit for supporting you during perimenopause and menopause. Here’s why:

  • Assist with fluid retention
  • Eases the pain of sore joints and muscles by relaxing and calming constricting muscles (I know, it’s easier to get injured and harder to recover from our athletic “get fit again” endeavours as we hit middle life.
  • Provides relief from abdominal cramping associated with your period.
  • Regulates blood pressure
  • Tones the sympathetic nervous system
  • Provides relief for migraine (I prefer to use it in the diffuser with lavender and peppermint as a blend for maximum effect)
  • Is a SEDATIVE essential oil, so assists with sleep-related issues. To find out more about sedative essential oils for sleep, purchase my “Sleep Soundly” ebook.

Emotional benefits of Marjoram Essential Oil in Perimenopause and Menopause

Marjoram essential oil is known as the oil of connection and is a great essential oil to use if you are experiencing relationship issues, as a result of the changes in your hormones.

It is quite normal during perimenopause and menopause to experience great changes in your moods and feel anger, frustration, and anxiety. This is due to the hormonal changes in your limbic system. The limbic system is the emotional regulator in your body and it is important for transmitting the chemical messages to our body from our mind, which we know as “emotions”.

The limbic system is closely linked to the olfactory system (your nose and mouth) and so inhaling essential oils which have emotional messages encoded in their chemical constituency is an effective way of managing and influencing your emotions.

Often in perimenopause and menopause, we come to that point in our life where we are fed up. We are hurt by our lifelong experiences in relationships with loved ones and people around us, and we can become bitter.

Often this leads to a feeling of being unable to trust others, or if we are single, or divorced, an inability to form meaningful relationships. When diffused, Marjoram essential oil softens the heart and helps heal past wounds. It restores a sense of trust and openness so that you can form relationships again.

Marjoram helps calm obsessive thinking, ease emotional craving and promote self-soothing and nurturing.

As a herb of love, it nourishes the place from where neediness springs. helping to restore the power to give…. It inspires contentment and compassion.

Living Healthy & Happily Ever After by Rebecca Linder Hintze and Dr Susan Lawton.

Please note that it is important not to use Marjoram all the time as long term use can numb erotic sensations and diminish sex drive and decrease sexual function.

It can, however, be helpful if you have an overactive libido, which can be the case if you have been married for a long time and re-enter the dating scene after a divorce. In this situation blend equal parts of “Purify” Essential Oil blend with Geranium essential oil.

Make small circular motions starting 3 to 5 inches below the back of the neck and above the shoulder blades, moving upward to the neckline until the whole area is covered; sweep over and across the heart.

Affirmation: I am comfortable with myself and enjoy savoring pleasurable and appropriate experiences. I am secure in myself as a woman. I love all of me. I am safe.

Living Healthy & Happily Ever After by Rebecca Linder Hintze and Dr Susan Lawton.

Marjoram essential oil should be used with caution in pregnancy – please dilute heavily and avoid using on your abdomen. Ensure your diffusing is also at a diluted ratio- it is suggested that you use only 1 drop in your blend. Consult with your healthcare provider for your personal needs.

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