Navigating Perimenopause- How do I know if I am in Perimenopause?

How do you know if you are in Perimenopause? It’s a good question. And importantly when you should start expecting to watch out for changes in your body that are a sign of perimenopause?

The very fact that you typed “How do I know if I am in perimenopause” into Google, shows that it’s time as a society that we started chatting about what happens to a women’s body and mind once she reaches the golden old, ripe age of 35. Yes, you did read that right. I said 35.

Now you don’t have to be as old as your mother, or getting around the house in your purple slippers and bathrobe to have your body start changing. Your body just has to decide it is time.

Specifically, it doesn’t give a hoot if you are having the time of your life in your 30s with your life waist deep in toddler time sessions at the local church hall; if you’ve finally got the kids into highschool and all settled, or you are in your 50s and they’ve finally left the house.

It’s quite inconvenient like that. It will decide when it wants to. And there is nothing you can do but hang on for the ride and get yourself informed about the changes. And then tell all your friends.

So if you’ve come across my blog for the first time, then welcome. My name is Katische and I have been blogging since 2011 sporadically. I’m the mother of two tweenagers and have two cute 9 year old twinnies along for the ride as part of my relationship.

Well in my mind I write one just about every day, but then I look online and it seems it’s been 6 months or a year. Where does the time go?

I’ve been blogging since my separation and divorce, then the death of my father. We’ve covered travel, terminal illness, anxiety and dating, and how to use essential oils on this blog and now we’re going to talk about perimenopause.

I’ve only heard of Menopause- what’s the Perimenopause thing all about then?

Perimenopause means, the phase leading up to Menopause, or the end of your period forever. Yes. Forever. As in you never need to go to the shops and buy a pad, menstrual cup or bloody tampons again. Aren’t you relieved at the sound of that?

It’s also the time that your body starts to prepare for this by decreasing the production of estrogen, testosterone and progesterone. Oh and your body starts to reduce the production of Melatonin as well (meaning it’s harder to go to sleep). And well, your hormones are basically all over the shop and you can feel like, well you are going crazy.

Except you aren’t. I promise. You’re just experiencing changes in your temporal lobe and limbic system that are as dramatic as that child of yours who is going through puberty at the same time you are going through Perimenopause. Convenient right?

How did I know I was in Perimenopause?

Wondering how to know if you are in perimenopause? This is how I figured it out.

There are over 35 different symptoms of Perimenopause, so don’t be surprised if your experience is different to mine. You may never experience hot flushes/hot flashes (you lucky thing), or flooding periods. Each woman’s experience is unique- which is why it is so bloody confusing and fascinating at the same time.

There’s one thing that is clear though. Your body will be very clear about it. And you don’t need a blood test or a doctor to diagnose it. Sure, you can go to the doctor, please do, however, your hormone levels change on a daily basis, so there is never a clear answer until you have not had a period for 12 months (and no baby was produced during this absence of blood). By then you are actually in menopause.

Symptoms of Perimenopause

Are you ready. Here we go:

Headaches, nausea, irritability, ANGER, forgetfulness, forgetting specific words, general vagueness, bloating, weight gain, depression, ANXIETY, social anxiety, vaginal dryness, UTI, recurring thrush, loss of libido, hot flushes, irregular periods, flooding (bleeding), flat mood- not able to get excited about anything, spotting, inability to deal with anything or anyone who has been driving you crazy, and let’s not forget the desire to say Fuck Off to everyone, regularly!

So today I have committed to keeping you in the loop weekly about what’s happening in my perimenopause world. I hope that you will see this first vlog, taken from my private facebook group and come on over and join us. 

My first Perimenopause Vlog

This video is a quick update to my facebook group. But it’s an example of my commitment to starting the discussion, and I hope you will join us.

What would you like to know about Perimenopause and Menopause? Comment below or share your story and let’s get this discussion out in the open.

For my other blogs about perimenopause and my workshop and coffee or wine catch up groups, visit this page.

The best summer drinks to keep you cool

best summer drinks

Summer’s almost here.

If you’re anything like me, you drink a lot during summer. But it can be boring to drink the same old thing, and you can end up consuming a lot of wasted calories when you drink soft drinks, and cordials, and iced teas and sports drinks.

One way to get around this is to use pure essential oils as your flavouring. Because they are created purely from the plant themselves, there is nothing but goodness. And no extra calories!

You can use essential oils in a glass of water, sparkling mineral water or soda, or in a number of different drinks. Think Lassi’s smoothies. slushies, lemonades, spritzes… the options are endless.

To save you time from searching with Mr Google, I’ve created a recipe book with some amazing summertime drinks for you. You can drink them as they are, or, some of them can have a mixer added to them for a weekend vibe.

Download now!

best summer drinks
Download my free summer drinks recipes ebook!

Need essential oils?

If you’re low on essential oils, don’t have any, or have been using a store-bought brand, can I recommend doTERRA essential oils for their purity- and the fact that they label which essential oils can be used for flavouring purposes. After all, the last thing you want to do is infuse your drinks with a chemical concoction!

What is Progesterone?

Progesterone is a female sex hormone. It’s produced mainly in the ovaries following ovulation each month. It’s a crucial part of the menstrual cycle and maintenance of pregnancy.

During Perimenopause and Menopause, or levels of production of our sex hormones decreases dramatically. For Perimenopausal women, Progesterone is the first hormone to decrease in the greatest proportion.

Without progesterone to complement it, estrogen may become the dominant hormone. This may cause symptoms including:

  • Weight gain
  • Decreased sex drive, mood swings, and depression
  • PMS, irregular menstrual cycle, heavy bleeding
  • Breast tenderness, fibrocystic breasts
  • Fibroids
  • Gallbladder problems
  • Fuzzy thinking
  • Irritability
  • Trouble sleeping
  • Water retention
  • PMS
reclaim your life

Reclaim your life

Perimenopause and Menopause can often be a deeply unsettling time for women. For some, who have already gone through a dark night of the soul, it can be a time of final decluttering and stripping down to the bare bones all things that are no longer needed.

For those women, it is deeply satisfying, invigorating and a confirmation of all that is right with their direction.

For others, the changes in your limbic system (the emotional regulator of your brain) is like stirring the bottom of a crystal clear lake, only to find the bottom is brown and murky and is coming to the surface.

If we are honest with ourselves and realise that this is THE major chance in life to reevaluate where we are, and what we want for ourselves, then this can be akin to planting the lake with the most amazing lotus flowers. They will settle the water, purify it and produce the most amazing and peaceful blooms.

But only if we do the work.

As Clarissa points out, the women that reclaim their life are the ones who reap the rewards. And we all know that when a woman feels alive, she lights up the world around her, and the whole world benefits.

Take the time to know yourself. Learn about the changes in your body. 

Go on. Go to, check out the blogs, and the link to my facebook group and enroll yourself in my Thrive in Perimenopause and Menopause course.

Design a life for you, by you.

What is Estrogen?

What is Estrogen?

  • Estrogens are a group of sex hormones that promote the development and maintenance of female characteristics in the human body.
  • They play an essential role in the growth and development of female secondary sexual characteristics, such as breasts, pubic and armpit hair, and the regulation of the menstrual cycle and reproductive system.
  • During the menstrual cycle, estrogen produces an environment suitable for the fertilization, implantation, and nutrition of an early embryo.
  • The ovaries are the main location for estrogen production but they are also produced in the hypothalamus in the brain.

What happens to Estrogen production during Perimenopause and Menopause?

  • During the phase of transition from perimenopause to menopause, there is a larger drop in progesterone as compared to estrogen. This increased estrogen to progesterone ratio is a major player in the symptoms women experience.
  • At menopause, there is relatively high estrogen compared to progesterone.

Want to learn more?

If you would like to learn more about Perimenopause and Menopause visit our Perimenopause page or facebook group.

or, you can enroll in my Thrive in Perimenopause and Menopause online course!

Difference Perimenopause Menopause

What is the difference between Perimenopause and Menopause?

difference perimenopause menopause

Are you wondering what the difference between Perimenopause and Menopause are? It’s most likely that you are confused by the terminology and trying to understand what most relates to where you are in life right now.

Never fear, Katische is here 😉

There are three terms that are thrown around in relation to women’s hormonal stages: Perimenopause, Menopause and Post Menopause.

To be honest, it is as simple as asking the question: Do you still get your period at all? If you do, you are Perimenopausal. If you haven’t had one for 12 months or more, we can retrospectively classify you as Menopausal.

Post-Menopausal is anything after that (not really a helpful term if you ask me). So let’s clarify that as – you haven’t had your period for such a long time, that you no longer even think about it.

Right, let’s be a bit more specific and get into what’s happening in your body during these periods of time.


Difference Perimenopause Menopause

How familiar are you with your uterus? You’d be surprised how many women don’t really understand their reproductive system- so it makes it quite difficult to understand what is going on during perimenopause.

Here’s a diagram for you to help you understand the changes that you experience when your body transitions into perimenopause. These changes are a result of the reduction in the production of your sex hormones, and in future posts, I will go through a lot of the symptoms that women experience as a result.

If you’d like to know more head to or join our facebook group or you can take my online perimenopause course 🙂


Difference Perimenopause Menopause

What is Menopause? 

Menopause starts officially 12 months AFTER your last period. This can be medically induced menopause or natural. There is no “set” age for Menopause. Once you are in Menopause, there is 0% chance of falling pregnant as your body is no longer capable of this. Therefore, in my opinion, you should no longer be on any form of contraception.


(Naturally, you still need protection from sexually transmitted disease- I know- try telling that to any male in his 40s or 50s).

I firmly believe that if you are on contraception in Menopause you should be talking to your women’s health specialist about coming off contraception and managing your hormones naturally. 

You are of course, perfectly entitled to disagree with me, it is your body. Do your research, find out the options, enroll in my course and learn how to manage your body yourself.

I just can’t fake it

Oh sometimes I wish I could, but I just can’t. 

faking happiness perimenopause

If I’m not feeling an emotion, I just can’t manufacture it, and it’s a downfall of mine. I know everyone else seems to be able to put on a show face and pretend to be excited or happy, but I’ve never had that skill. 

I’ve always been a what you see is what you get kinda gal, and that sometimes gets me in trouble.

During perimenopause, that inability to fake emotion recently was a contributing factor that ended my relationship. 

And no, I don’t mean an ability to fake it in the bedroom. 

I can see that crystal clear in hindsight, that this made my ex-boyfriend feel unloved and like there was nothing that he could do that would elicit a display of delirious rapture that he wanted.

And so I just wanted to let you know, that if you’re feeling the same way at the moment, I understand.

During perimenopause, the changes in our hormonal levels in our limbic system of the brain (the master controller of emotion) fluctuate wildly depending on the day.

What I’ve noticed is that now I have a unique emotional cycle and for one part of that cycle, I just don’t feel myself. I don’t feel depressed or down, just flat.

Nothing can excite me during that time.

I mean, you could put a bow around the neck of the cutest fluffiest puppy in the world, and give him to me as a present, and I just couldn’t must up the excited display of emotion that you would want and expect to see.

I’d feel it, deep down somewhere, but I just can’t express it.

Luckily, it passes.

And I know it passes when I come out the other side and suddenly get the giggles, and think, oh boy, I’m back, I didn’t even realise I was gone.

So next time you are not feeling yourself, why not make yourself up a diffuser blend or aromatic dressing pure-fume from the following collection I’ve put together just for you.

Essential oils for sleep

Which essential oils should I use?

If you have trouble sleeping at night, then I’m excited to share with you that doTERRA has just made the Bedtime Bliss Wellness Box available as an enrolment kit for new customers to doTERRA.

The Bedtime Bliss Wellness Box comes with 5 essential oils and fractionated coconut oil, plus a card that outlines how to use the oils in your new night-time routine.

The bedtime bliss enrollment kit (also available for existing customers as a Loyalty Rewards Wellness Box)

Bedtime Bliss Enrolment Kit

Lavender Peace 
Begin your night-time ritual with 2-3 drops in your diffuser to promote a calm, relaxed environment. 

Add 2-3 drops to your warm bath with Epsom salts to create a relaxing, renewing experience. 

Apply 2-3 drops to the back of the neck or the heart, then inhale the excess from your palms to quiet the mind and calm your emotions before a tranquil sleep.

Peace Touch 
Leave all of your worries behind and recapture the composed, collected you and apply dōTERRA Peace® Touch by gently rubbing into your temples before bed. Apply to the bottom of the feet before bed, and keep near your bed for peace of mind throughout the night.

A good night’s rest begins with a calm and care-free day. Apply Balance® to the bottom of your feet to promote feelings of calmness and tranquility throughout the day. Begin the calming process after dinner by adding 1-3 drops to your diffuser.

Blend 1-3 drops with Balance®, or solo to create a relaxing environment after a difficult or action-packed day. 

Begin your night-time routine by adding 1-2 drops to your toner or moisturiser to leave your skin silky smooth, while enjoying the relaxing and grounding aroma.

Due to its calming, grounding effect on the emotions, Vetiver is an ideal oil to use in massage therapy; dilute with Fractionated Coconut Oil and apply to your body in long, soothing strokes. Add 1-2 drops to a warm bath for deep relaxation.

Fractionated Coconut Oil
Use to dilute stronger oils and apply to the skin. Combine 1-3 drops each of your favourite calming aromatic oils to an empty roller bottle, and top up with Fractionated Coconut Oil to create your own, personalised Bedtime Bliss blend.

How do I purchase?

The Bedtime Bliss Enrolment Kit is $175 wholesale or $233 retail (no membership)- to purchase go to  All purchases through me in October receive my Sleep eBook valued at $9.95 complimentary plus my welcome kit.

Best doTERRA product

Almost 4 years with doTERRA.

Can you guess the ONE item I vowed to NEVER EVER be without?

When I asked this question on social media, I had so many responses. But they were wrong.

It’s not my diffuser or my Life Long Vitality supplements.

Fractionated coconut oil? Well, that is a very handy item, especially when I have panda eyes to take off my mascara, but nope.

Lavender Essential Oil? Oooh so hard to live without that one. So so versatile, and with kids, impossible to deal without the scratches, bee stings and bites first aid side of that. but, no. guess again.

Clary Calm? ooh another stella guess. I think my family would like to say a very loud resounding YES for my hormones but…. no.

On Guard Essential Oil Blend?  hmm. A staple especially in winter. I use it the most as a handwash but no.

Peace Essential Oil blend? ahh that’s like the first sip of a glass of wine when the kids are being ratty, but no.

So here’s a few clues, or if you’re impatient like me, just fill in your details below and pretty soon you too will be in on the secret.

  • Contains Frankincense Essential Oil
  • Is used twice a day
  • Is the one product you never seem to see doTERRA talking about or promoting DESPITE the fact that so many people include it in their daily health regime, and there are literally thousands of testimonials.
  • Makes your hair and nails grow.
  • Works at a cellular level

How to manage frustration anger and irritability during perimenopause and menopause

Anger in Perimenopause

If Perimenopause or Menopause has you feeling angry and frustrated, you are not alone! It’s the number one emotion that women experience during Perimenopause and Menopause.

Anger is a difficult emotion.

It is the emotion we chide ourselves for having and not containing.

It is an explosive emotion that we are told to keep under control.

Yet it is the very emotion that makes us sick when we repress it.

There is nothing wrong with being angry. It is a sign that something has insulted our ego or sense of self.

It is a sign that our values may have been compromised.

The key is to express anger without taking actions that cause negative repercussions.

Anger during perimenopause and menopause can be attributed to changes in our life, and the stuffing down of emotions that we may have repressed over our lifetime, to be a “good girl”.

However, once we are in perimenopause, we experience declines in the production of our sex hormones, and one of the implications of this is that we experience changes in our brain- our limbic system, which is the master controller of our emotions!

So rest assured it is not “just you”. You’re not “making it up”. There is a very valid chemical reaction that is going on in your body that is linked to the rage and frustration you are experiencing.

The challenge is to channel anger into positive action, through art, photography, music or exercise and not to throw things, drink, call names or any other angry behaviour.

anger in perimenopause
Recent article on midlife rage
anger in perimenopause

Help is at hand with essential oils. Your free guide includes the essential oils and specific blends which will help you manage your emotions and help you feel calmer and more in control.

Essential oils work with our olfactory and limbic systems. So our nose talks to the controller of our emotional brain via the encoded messages in the oils. Depending upon the oils you use, different messages are sent and they help you calm down, or uplift or inspire or reassure, or whatever emotional support it is that you need.

It’s more effective and faster than stuffing your face with cake, or alcohol or drugs when you are emotional, plus there are no side effects or addictions, and no extra kilos !!

Grab your free guide now.

urinary tract infection perimenopause

How to treat Urinary Tract Infections in Perimenopause with essential oils.

Urinary Tract Infection Perimenopause

Are you suffering from an increase in urinary tract infections now that you are in perimenopause or menopause? If you are looking for a solution that does not involve constantly going back to the doctor for antibiotics, then can I recommend essential oils and essential oil based supplements?

I have had great success helping people with UTI’s with essential oils- UTI’s are unfortunately very common with perimenopause and menopause During perimenopause and menopause the drop in the estrogen and progesterone leads to reduced blood flow in the vaginal walls. This results in atrophy and loss of lubrication.

You may experience:

  • Pale vagina surface
  • Repeated UTI’s
  • Itchiness or burning sensation
  • Difficulty getting aroused
  • Reduced sex drive
  • Painful intercourse.

Essential oils are helpful in relieving the spasms and purifying the body and eliminating the bacteria that cause the infection.

Copaiba Softgels:

“Used in Western Herbal medicine to support general health & wellbeing, urinary tract health and to relieve burning sensation upon urination associated with medically diagnosed cystitis, Copaiba essential oil now comes in an easy to swallow vegetarian and carrageenan free softgel.”

If you suffer from frequent recurring UTI’s and you would like to purchase any of these products go to

Rollerball/ Hot compress recipe

UTI Rollerball recipe- add essential oils and fill with fractionated coconut oil or carrier oil of your choice. Place a hot pack over the abdomen and also add juniper berry to a glass of cranberry juice.

Urinary Tract Infection Perimenopause

Consider using GX assist to remove the bacteria from your gut and then replenish with good bacteria via PB assist (doTERRA’s probiotic). Both of these items are available from the USA in $USD and can be shipped to Australia or your country of residence.

Urinary Tract Infection Perimenopause
GX Assist is a combination of CPTG Certified Pure Therapeutic Grade® essential oils and caprylic acid to help support a healthy digestive tract by creating an unfriendly environment for potential threats that can disrupt digestive immunities and cause digestive upset.* GX Assist is formulated to be used for 10 days as a preparatory cleansing step before using PB Assist®+ Probiotic Defense Formula.*
Urinary Tract Infection Perimenopause

Prevention is better than cure

Can anything be done to help prevent UTIs? 

According to the National Kidney Foundation, the following steps may help to prevent UTIs: 

  • Drink plenty of fluids.
  • Studies show that drinking a glass of cranberry juice each day may help prevent recurrent UTIs. New research also suggests a similar effect from other cranberry products, including dried cranberries and dietary supplements. Cranberries contain compounds that may stop certain bacteria from attaching to the urinary tract wall. For those with diabetes or at-risk for diabetes, low-sugar or sugar-free options are available. 
  • Don’t postpone going to the bathroom, urinate when you feel the urge.
  • Women should also: Wipe from front to back to prevent bacteria from the bowels from getting into the urinary tract. Cleanse the genital area every day and before having sex. Empty your bladder completely before going to sleep.
  • Take a supplement with cranberry or pomegranate. (doTERRA’s Life Long Vitality and Phytogestrogen Complex both contain Pomegranate)
  • Use a pre and probiotic
  • Regularly undertake a gut health cleanse a couple of times a year.
Urinary Tract Infection Perimenopause
Urinary Tract Infection Perimenopause

Break the Taboo: Thrive in Perimenopause and Menopause Online Course

Want to know more about why you get an increased risk of UTI’s in perimenopause and menopause? Searching for information about the various symptoms and how to manage them? Look no further than my online course.

Urinary Tract Infection Perimenopause

Urinary Tract Infection Perimenopause